The tragedy in Newtown is so incredibly heart breaking. I can scarcely take it in.
As the nation grieves with Newtown, people around us are searching for answers to some of life’s deepest and most basic questions, such as, “Where was God?” and, “How could God allow evil?”
When evil is expressed at this magnitude it knocks us off our routines of relative comfort. Our base survival instincts heighten and fear can often set in.
Those on the political left are blaming semi-automatic weapons. Some blame Hollywood. Those on the political right are mostly silent, and as in most arguments, the side not talking often loses.
A dialogue needs to take place on many fronts, such as gun control, mental health issues, school security, freedom versus government overreach, influence of video games, Hollywood’s glamorization of violence and the early detection of possible psychopaths.
I’d also like to add a subject – fatherhood.
All of the mass school killings in recent history had two things in common, semi-automatic weapons and young males.
What is so broken in our culture that empowers young males to kill innocent, lovely children? Where were all the shooters’ dads?
There has been minimal news coverage on the Sandy Hook shooter’s father. We know he is wealthy and was divorced from the shooter’s mother. But, there is plenty of coverage on the dead mother. In just a few minutes you can know the name of her favorite bar, how many guns she owned, what kind of medication she gave her son, ad nauseam.
Our culture has marginalized men and fathers and for good reason. Now, 40 percent of all children are raised in homes without their biological fathers.
These statistics are indicative of a culture where fathers are weak, unnecessary and absent. The result of a broken house is a broken family. Broken families lead to a broken society. Broken societies don’t value life.
The bottom line is that our culture must change and these senseless shootings must stop.
I don’t believe we’ll see a decrease in psychopathic acts of violence until our society 1) acknowledges the collapse of the American family and 2) engages a serious reconsideration about the role of fathers.
Read my earlier post titled, “I am Adam Lanza’s Father.”